Hi blog Parents!

DOES THE APPLE FALL FAR FROM THE TREE? CAN WE RAISE RESPONSIBLE ADULTS AFTER TRAUMA AND ABANDONMENT?

I saw a story on the parents of one of the Columbine Killers - Very sad that the person writing a book about parents of killers, thinks they had nothing to do with it and that the Apple can fall far from the tree".....
If you want to raise strong, healthy happy kids...parenting IS very important! Not only a clean, decent place to live, community safety, love, care, lessons of life and talking daily so that you can pre-dict anger, suicide or homicide....but keeping your kids away from abusive (verbal or physical), spouses, family members...keeping them away from perverts, not allowing YOUR own OCD's to interfere so bad that they develop their own form. Knowing when your kid is being bullied OR that they are the type that can be bullied!! You have to know your kid and if you are just getting your foster child or just adopted a kid from another country or who is older...you must start RECONDITIONING your child's brain from ALL negative past events...HOW?? Therapy should be #1..find a therapist who is known for their breakthrough work!
2. PATIENCE....they cant change overnight, my mom got me at 7 years old...she had major patience, love and understanding and would AND she never judged me, just loved me until I was able to figure out the right way for me" (not her)....
3. Remember your job as a parent is to raise responsible, loving, healthy people who GIVE back to society and NOT Rob it of all its resources!!
4. Every day is a new day to start over...kids learn a new habit in 30 days, teach them well, and your work will pay off when they are adults who know how to maintain a healthy career and live life to the fullest...when they are around 30...you will see your fruits of labor..hopefully...they have never hurt anyone, been violent, jail for criminal/homicidal reasons..and hopefully they have spread what you taught them to a few strangers along the way... Teach them to pay it forward"....this is what life really is about in my opinion...
SO IN THE END THE APPLE DOES NOT FALL FAR FROM THE TREE BUT SOMETIMES IT LANDS NEAR ANOTHER TREE....LOL...REMEMBER: " OUR PARENTS ARE SOMETIMES ONLY A VEHICLE TO GET US HER, SOMETIMES LIKE IN OUR CASE, SOMEONE ELSE HAS TO BE A "PARENT"!

Have a great day, know that your work is important and NEEDED!! Thank you for loving someone Else's kids, the world has a chance to be a better place because of you!!!

Tanya