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Thursday, June 30, 2011

fosterkidsonly: setting the groundwork for future vacations..

fosterkidsonly: setting the groundwork for future vacations..: "Hi Blog fam! I hope you are enjoying your vacation. I know often kids in group homes do not get to go on vacation, but your time will come..."

http://myemail.constantcontact.com/New-Talent-Shows-July-13th--20th---theme-shows-.html?soid=1103254901438&aid=bdYwvJ6wvyo

http://myemail.constantcontact.com/New-Talent-Shows-July-13th--20th---theme-shows-.html?soid=1103254901438&aid=bdYwvJ6wvyo

if you have a kid thats funny and wants to perfect it, this is the place! I went to this comedy school, great fun and if you have it they help make it polished... start the kids out as young as 15 (i would say 10) but hey, i try to find your talent early and then work on perfecting it....

fosterkidsonly: The Power of Goals - Anthony Robbins

fosterkidsonly: The Power of Goals - Anthony Robbins
please share with your foster kids, very powerful, we must shift the thinking patterns of foster kids!!

EX FOSTER KIDS UNITE: advice for those entering a new group or foster ho...

EX FOSTER KIDS UNITE: advice for those entering a new group or foster ho...: "www.createspace.com/3587372 the above is the link to my self help book for teens: surviving foster care and making it work for you!! Every t..."

Wednesday, June 29, 2011

EX FOSTER KIDS UNITE: journals for healing

EX FOSTER KIDS UNITE: journals for healing: "Hi blog family! summer is in full effect! kids are off at camp, college is on breatk and you may be having too much time on your hands to ..."

Thursday, June 23, 2011

EX FOSTER KIDS UNITE: surviving foster care & making it work for you

EX FOSTER KIDS UNITE: surviving foster care & making it work for you: "my new book for foster teens is available at: www.createspace.com/358737 2"

Teaching kids to have faith of a mustard seed


hi blog Foster parents! look at this post from yahoo. 
I know i hate to copy post BUT I want you all (all my blogs) to read it and for you to pass the lesson to your kids.
 My foster mother taught me this without a doubt and I thank her for it, so for you to share: 
 that life is something we should ALWAYS value, 
even when hard times hit, moved to alot of foster homes,
when we lose a love one,  have no family
when you have no job, facing eviction- 
STILL keep your head high and know that, miracles can happen at ANY time in your life....I call this: "The last minute miracle".... read, share with your kids and help them understand life is like playing baseball (to a woman that is NOT in love with baseball)
....long, boring,  no contact like basketball or hocky..
low scores, too hot out sometimes....
 BUT just when you think your not interested......someone hits a home run!
 Then your awake and ready to watch for more action....a true fan (like a lover of life) will always be expecting something good to happen, 
even when your team is down and looking bad....
never, ever give up hope, keep faith the size of a mustard seed!! 
check out this article!!
thank you for all the hard work you do, you will be blessed! thanks to you for being angels who will save or change a life!! xo Tanya

Homeless man with inheritance suffered tragedy

SALT LAKE CITY – A homeless man whose rags-to-riches story made international headlines suffered a devastating family tragedy decades ago that may have led to his life on the streets of Salt Lake City.
A friend tells the Deseret News that Max Melitzer's wife and two friends were killed in a 1990 car crash. Melitzer was driving and, according to Karol Behling, hasn't been the same since.
Behling says Melitzer was deeply affected by the death of his wife, Janice, and his life as a transient seemed to begin after the accident. Last week, a private investigator tracked down Melitzer to deliver the life-altering news of a sizable inheritance left by a brother who died last year of cancer.
Melitzer has since left Utah to reunite with family in New York, whom he hadn't been in contact with in months.
Behling's deceased husband, Steve, knew Melitzer for more than 20 years.
"He was very much in love with his wife, I believe. And it was really hard for him — one, to have her gone and, two, to have been driving," Behling recalled Tuesday. "I'm sure that affected him a lot, and I'm sure he missed his wife a lot."
In July 1990, Melitzer was driving through Wyoming when he lost control of his car, killing his wife and two passengers, the Deseret News reports.
Behling said she recalls Melitzer lost his apartment after the crash and bounced from place to place between Ogden and Salt Lake City.
Behling last saw Melitzer in December, when he visited her husband in the hospital. She said she was surprised to hear Melitzer's family was looking for him, because he never spoke of having any family.
"I hope this works out. And I hope his family is truly interested in him because he's a good guy," Behling said.
Melitzer's family recently hired a New York law firm in an effort to locate him, and the law firm contracted with investigator David Lundberg.
Neither Lundberg nor the lawyers have disclosed the amount Melitzer will receive.
"He'd have money where he could take care of himself or hire someone to take care of him," Lundberg said. "Apparently, he does have some emotional issues. The family just wants to make sure he's set up and he's taken care of."
Others who know Melitzer say he was an example to those around him.
"He takes donations of bread and other things like that, and he tries to donate them to my ministry," said Jason Florez, who runs the homeless ministry at Mountain View Christian Assembly of God church in Sandy. "He just happens to be one of the purest hearts of all the homeless people we bring in and come and see."
Florez gave one of the critical tips Lundberg that led to finding Melitzer at Pioneer Park in downtown Salt Lake City last Saturday. He said he saw a television news report highlighting the search for Melitzer.
"I was sitting next to my wife, and I couldn't even talk. I said, `That's Max,'" Florez recalled.

Saturday, June 18, 2011

Wallace D. Wattles--on getting rich chapt 10


Hi blog family!
School is out but the mind never stops working!! congrats on finishing-great job!!! You should find a good book and read it for the summer...really 2 would be nice.. don't go the whole summer without reading, writing...pick up a journal (start one) write down your thoughts, plans and action you want to take...
In the meantime i was reading this book by Wallace D. Wattles on getting rich....here is some from his permission given site....(gotta give credit...you learned about plagerism in school i hope!

You must want real life, not mere pleasure of sensual gratification. Life is the performance of function; and the individual really lives only when he performs every function, physical, mental, and spiritual, of which he is capable, without excess in any.
You do not want to get rich in order to live swinishly, for the gratification of animal desires; that is not life. But the performance of every physical function is a part of life, and no one lives completely who denies the impulses of the body a normal and healthful expression.
You do not want to get rich solely to enjoy mental pleasures, to get knowledge, to gratify ambition, to outshine others, to be famous. All these are a legitimate part of life, but the man who lives for the pleasures of the intellect alone will only have a partial life, and he will never be satisfied with his lot.
You do not want to get rich solely for the good of others, to lose yourself for the salvation of mankind, to experience the joys of philanthropy and sacrifice. The joys of the soul are only a part of life; and they are no better or nobler than any other part.
You want to get rich in order that you may eat, drink, and be merry when it is time to do these things; in order that you may surround yourself with beautiful things, see distant lands, feed your mind, and develop your intellect; in order that you may love men and do kind things, and be able to play a good part in helping the world to find truth.
But remember that extreme altruism is no better and no nobler than extreme selfishness; both are mistakes.
Get rid of the idea that God wants you to sacrifice yourself for others, and that you can secure his favor by doing so; God requires nothing of the kind.
What he wants is that you should make the most of yourself, for yourself, and for others; and you can help others more by making the most of yourself than in any other way.
You can make the most of yourself only by getting rich; so it is right and praiseworthy that you should give your first and best thought to the work of acquiring wealth.
Remember, however, that the desire of Substance is for all, and its movements must be for more life to all; it cannot be made to work for less life to any, because it is equally in all, seeking riches and life.
Intelligent Substance will make things for you, but it will not take things away from some one else and give them to you.
You must get rid of the thought of competition. You are to create, not to compete for what is already created.
You do not have to take anything away from any one.
You do not have to drive sharp bargains.
You do not have to cheat, or to take advantage. You do not need to let any man work for you for less than he earns.
You do not have to covet the property of others, or to look at it with wishful eyes; no man has anything of which you cannot have the like, and that without taking what he has away from him.
You are to become a creator, not a competitor; you are going to get what you want, but in such a way that when you get it every other man will have more than he has now.
I am aware that there are men who get a vast amount of money by proceeding in direct opposition to the statements in the paragraph above, and may add a word of explanation here. Men of the plutocratic type, who become very rich, do so sometimes purely by their extraordinary ability on the plane of competition; and sometimes they unconsciously relate themselves to Substance in its great purposes and movements for the general racial upbuilding through industrial evolution. Rockefeller, Carnegie, Morgan, et al., have been the unconscious agents of the Supreme in the necessary work of systematizing and organizing productive industry; and in the end, their work will contribute immensely toward increased life for all. Their day is nearly over; they have organized production, and will soon be succeeded by the agents of the multitude, who will organize the machinery of distribution.
The multi-millionaires are like the monster reptiles of the prehistoric eras; they play a necessary part in the evolutionary process, but the same Power which produced them will dispose of them. And it is well to bear in mind that they have never been really rich; a record of the private lives of most of this class will show that they have really been the most abject and wretched of the poor.
Riches secured on the competitive plane are never satisfactory and permanent; they are yours to-day, and another's tomorrow. Remember, if you are to become rich in a scientific and certain way, you must rise entirely out of the competitive thought. You must never think for a moment that the supply is limited. Just as soon as you begin to think that all the money is being "cornered" and controlled by bankers and others, and that you must exert yourself to get laws passed to stop this process, and so on; in that moment you drop into the competitive mind, and your power to cause creation is gone for the time being; and what is worse, you will probably arrest the creative movements you have already instituted.
KNOW that there are countless millions of dollars' worth of gold in the mountains of the earth, not yet brought to light; and know that if there were not, more would be created from Thinking Substance to supply your needs.
KNOW that the money you need will come, even if it is necessary for a thousand men to be led to the discovery of new gold mines to-morrow.
Never look at the visible supply; look always at the limitless riches in Formless Substance, and KNOW that they are coming to you as fast as you can receive and use them. Nobody, by cornering the visible supply, can prevent you from getting what is yours.
So never allow yourself to think for an instant that all the best building spots will be taken before you get ready to build your house, unless you hurry. Never worry about the trusts and combines, and get anxious for fear they will soon come to own the whole earth. Never get afraid that you will lose what you want because some other person "beats you to it." That cannot possibly happen; you are not seeking any thing that is possessed by anybody else; you are causing what you want to be created from formless Substance, and the supply is without limits. Stick to the formulated statement:--
There is a thinking stuff from which all things are made, and which, in its original state, permeates, penetrates, and fills the interspaces of the universe.
A thought, in this substance, produces the thing that is imaged by the thought.
Man can form things in his thought, and, by impressing his thought upon formless substance, can cause the thing he thinks about to be created.

Thursday, June 16, 2011

Wednesday, June 15, 2011

teaching family values

Hi!

family values... remember when your child came from a group home setting OR a chaotic home....they may NOT know family values!
It will take about 3-12 months to see results, BUT it is worth it!! Kids can learn ANYTHING you teach them with love, compassion and conviction! Set the rules, allow for a few errors, explaining why something is  or is not ok...and relax, eventually your lessons will kick in.
You must set ground rules for safety and comfort when kids arrive...yes, you want them to get comfortable and "check out" your new home BUT explaining with LOVE why you have certain rules is helpful and they must understand rules to make it in this confusing world.
Foster kids are extremely smart, they have to be to make up for no parent telling them or loving them....treat them with love, kindness, compassion AND as Dr. Harris Straytner said" with CAREfrontational" approach....not confrontational!! They are human beings trying to make it in a world that let them down as soon as mommy walked away, died, whatever reason does not matter, if she is not coming back, all they know is abandonment. Please help them find comfort and unconditional love, I promise it will be the biggest blessing of your life, if done right!! xo Tanya
did you know you can call a new # to become a foster parent in Westchester County....? more to come next week...
feel free to post any questions!!
You are the greatest blessing in a foster childs life, please smile, they will love you and model after you!!

fosterkidsonly: keep in touch

fosterkidsonly: keep in touch: "hi blog family! this is my brother who passed , he was my favorite person growing up because they took my sister and little brother away,..."

Friday, June 10, 2011

teach anger to acton

Hi foster parents,
please share...

Hi blog family!


I remeber my first day in foster care!
being taken away from my home, 
no matter how neglected 
or starved we were,
 it was still home...
I remember getting in the car 
with the social worker and 
waving goodbye to the nice police officer, 
I remember my first drive.
Sitting in an old office, 
lots of paperwork, 
no one really talking to us, 
eccept to ask where is mommy or
 when was the last time we saw her, 
I remember like yesterday..
Hunger, gripping my stomach, 
i had not eaten since yesterday, 
I miss that pancake mix, 
it 
sure
 was
 tasty!
My sis, always there for us, 
making us feel safe while she was around. holding my brother's hand...
time to go.. wonder where? wonder when mom is coming back?
grab
 the plastic bag...
off in a car to our first "group home they say...
 I remember the ride in the car... looking out the back of the car the street narrows and everything is farther away...but  something new is closer.....
I am angry,
 i don't know why mom has not come home in weeks....
maybe longer...she is "very sick" those people say...
someone should get her a doctor!!

by: little Tanya

 i don't know why she did not come back for us..but I do know ... i do know, i am grateful to her for NOT aborting, killing or selling me!!! For not leaving me on a step! So many kids did NOT make it to foster care!! no matter what happend is was NOT your fault AND you should be grateful for your life, you can always start over every day you wake!!! You are here for a reason, to help others to save or change a life!! 
I know my mom's addictions was serious and there was NO help back in the 60's and 70's, I know it was hard for a woman to make it with no family support and a husband back from war, dismantled.....I know at that time, i was angry! But this is good!!

that anger would be the reason i fight for so many foster kids today!
 I never forget that moment, why?
 Because as long as I feel like it is yesterday, I can feel other foster kids pain and it can motivate me to take action and help!
Some of you may have left foster care, what are you doing to not only stay more than alive BUT to help others in the system? Let all of your anger, sadness and disapoinment spark the activisim in you!
 Start a blog, write a book, screenplay, create art...whatever...just do something to help others still in.
 We cannot rely on any person OR "system" that makes money on you to be your comfort"!

 We must wakeup, stop feeling sorry for our situations and make other kids feel their is hope! 
I know some of us are focusing on the abuse, neglect or abandonment issues that got us in care BUT you must remember: you are still alive, you made it! now its time to help others and minimize your pain and suffering by going to therapy, work all those issues out in the chair AND then you can help others....
life is a lesson for all of us, what did you learn? 
how can you be of service to others in the same situation? 
You did not deserve to go through what you went through but remember you must go through SOMETHING in this life to learn and share...and become something....your body is only temporary, the mind and the good deeds you do for others are forever...because they will pass it on...pay it forward....learn to turn your stories and your anger into positive actions!!!

 you are loved, 
blessed and the universe needs you!
 xo Tanya

Wednesday, June 8, 2011

summer is near

Hi Foster Parents!

Summer is nearing. If you have foster kids and this is your first....congradualations on being a life changer! Your work is cut out BUT if you guide, love and lead unconditionally, it will be worth it. Not only because  kids learn by great examples but because as you get older, you will have someone there for you! So often we go through life thinking we don't need anyone. I see seniors today who wisely chose not to have kids and now there partners are gone, there in their 80's....with no one to help them with even grocery's!! Seems small but when your on the 99 year old life plan, its not fun being alone. I believe God made kids for increasing the population but because he knew we need to love and help others. Your role as foster parent is so crucial and I commend you for stepping out of your comfort zone to raise some one elses child! Remember, if done right: raising the child with values, morals, love, guidance, sense of community, higher power, self esteem, it will be worth it!!! We can never have too much love and what better match than a foster kid who has moved around or was abused and a parent who was raised with love and can share!!

thank you for your hard work, you are blessed.

Tanya

Sunday, June 5, 2011

fosterkidsonly: Message delivered!

fosterkidsonly: Message delivered!: "Hi blog family! National foster care awareness month was a major success! Thank you to those who attended the event and to you reading. ..."

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