Summer End
Hi blog family!
I am back! Power is restored and so am I!!!
I hope this has been a wonderful summer for all of you!
School is about to be back in session! This is good, keeps the kids busy with a goal...of finishing!! lol..
two thoughts today:
If you are a foster parent, ask yourself, what am I doing today, to make a better life for my kid this year? If they leave, have I given them some tools to deal with life?
If you have kids challenge them to always ask this question monthly, it is the only way to NOT become comfortable with where you are at as a person in life.
I am back! Power is restored and so am I!!!
I hope this has been a wonderful summer for all of you!
School is about to be back in session! This is good, keeps the kids busy with a goal...of finishing!! lol..
two thoughts today:
If you are a foster parent, ask yourself, what am I doing today, to make a better life for my kid this year? If they leave, have I given them some tools to deal with life?
If you have kids challenge them to always ask this question monthly, it is the only way to NOT become comfortable with where you are at as a person in life.
You always want them to do better, be stronger, live longer and wiser than yesterday and you DON"T want them to make the mistakes their parents made! (for those who were placed in foster care due to parents neglect, abuse abandonment etc..)
We are trying to build a stronger next generation!
The greatest minds are ALWAYS growing, learning, thinking and Listening to advice that can help them become better people inside and out!
See what you or your kids may need to have a better year: find new positive friends, learn to accept motherly/friendly hugs, learn to think positive, learn NOT to worry, eat to live, play family games to bond, start working out by walking, read more books, practice learning a language on youtube, sign up for peace or job corp to get out and travel and meet new people?
There are many things we all can be doing daily to stay learning.
The greatest minds are ALWAYS growing, learning, thinking and Listening to advice that can help them become better people inside and out!
See what you or your kids may need to have a better year: find new positive friends, learn to accept motherly/friendly hugs, learn to think positive, learn NOT to worry, eat to live, play family games to bond, start working out by walking, read more books, practice learning a language on youtube, sign up for peace or job corp to get out and travel and meet new people?
There are many things we all can be doing daily to stay learning.
life is a lesson and learning helps you grow as a person.
If your kid grew up in a group home without family structure, help them retrain the brain to do things different - IF the old training did not work.. (if they learned to "yell", fight, ignore, steal to eat, lie (to help a sick parent)....
GETTING RID OF OLD DEFENSE MECHANISMS WE USED TO AVOID PAIN
for example moving around from place to place you may be GREAT at meeting people and adjusting to different homes, BUT you are able to drop people TOO easy...(an argument with a friend, instead of calling them you could wait forever and be fine with that--that was ok when you had to move around, I think its a defence mechanism we build up so that we wont be hurt someone is leaving again...
BUT in a good relationship (mate or friend) there will be awkward days and IF that friend or mate is worth it, you must take the step and repair it, or you will lose the friend or mate... We must re-learn how to get close to others, not be distant and trust that if they leave, life moves forward and its ok!!
If your kid grew up in a group home without family structure, help them retrain the brain to do things different - IF the old training did not work.. (if they learned to "yell", fight, ignore, steal to eat, lie (to help a sick parent)....
GETTING RID OF OLD DEFENSE MECHANISMS WE USED TO AVOID PAIN
for example moving around from place to place you may be GREAT at meeting people and adjusting to different homes, BUT you are able to drop people TOO easy...(an argument with a friend, instead of calling them you could wait forever and be fine with that--that was ok when you had to move around, I think its a defence mechanism we build up so that we wont be hurt someone is leaving again...
BUT in a good relationship (mate or friend) there will be awkward days and IF that friend or mate is worth it, you must take the step and repair it, or you will lose the friend or mate... We must re-learn how to get close to others, not be distant and trust that if they leave, life moves forward and its ok!!
In the end foster kids that lived mostly in group homes need to understand the dynamics of family life, how each member helps each other, how all the family work together", in the group home they learned to work alone and for self survival, doing whatever necessary to survive, now they must learn opposite so be patient, carefrontational and give lots of hugs and love!!
Have a great year teaching our future kings and queens!!
oxo Tanya
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