Hi blog family!
I had a great time speaking in Maryland :( My book is finally Done! "Surviving Foster Care & Making it work for you!" I will get back to you on a release date!
What a great audience of proffessionals that really came out to support youth in foster care!
I shared my story and then gave some ideas I thought could help. For those that were in care I am sure you remember the day your worker came and got you!
I remember being hungry!!
1. I suggested that they bring a piece of food when they go to confiscate a child from their home...along with a camera..to preserve their history! I never had a picture of myself as a baby or before 7...and the one picture I had....my birth cousin took and never gave it back... it would have been nice to see a photo of myself when I first came into care..
2. Be careful what we write in a child's record--it follows them for the rest of their lives....I remember when i read I was "slow"--when i first came in care!! I felt they should have considered I came from an abandonment/neglect situation....whom could I have learned from??? I did not start school until I was 7 years old....
3, Teaching kids in care to think positive, that they will be there own hero at the end of the day...by going to class, finding good support, loving self etc...and finding their gifts and talent at a young age will give them confidence...nothing like knowing you have "something" people appreciate.. your sense of value is increased..
4. hiring ex foster care alumni like us, My book, workshops I created, the blog of encouragement...kids like familiarity...we have been there, done that and now as Oprah says...the AHHHHH moments, but we share it with the kids BEFORE they age out!!
I had plenty more but we only had 20 minutes.....know that alot of people are working to change the lives of kids in foster care, and the work you do as foster or adopted parents is vital!
Sunday, January 23, 2011
Wednesday, January 19, 2011
College Becomes a Reality for Foster Kids - NBC29
College Becomes a Reality for Foster Kids - NBC29
teach your kids that education is the key to the world! You may not use your degree first hand but you can tell when someone has went to college, thought process is different and a person learns to make a better educated guess, based on many things learned.
Friday, January 14, 2011
thinking of adopting
hi blog family!
beautiful day, time is passing, please take each day and ask: how can I be of service? If you are thinking of adopting there are many sites so do your homework. I came across a very informative one you may want to look at:
http://www.americanadoptions.com/adoption/link_resource
always do your homework as there are many agency's. Some kid, somewhere is in need of your love to make our future better. If this is sitting on your heat, follow your instict. Go into it fully understanding that kids need love but they also need to find themselves and they can only do that if you allow them time to process what happend to put them in care and be open and honest. All teens go through something but if you have a family that is open, honest and loving, you can't go wrong!
Today remind your kids how special they are and let them know they have divine purpose, the earlier, the better xo Tanya
You can always ask me questions here or email
beautiful day, time is passing, please take each day and ask: how can I be of service? If you are thinking of adopting there are many sites so do your homework. I came across a very informative one you may want to look at:
http://www.americanadoptions.com/adoption/link_resource
always do your homework as there are many agency's. Some kid, somewhere is in need of your love to make our future better. If this is sitting on your heat, follow your instict. Go into it fully understanding that kids need love but they also need to find themselves and they can only do that if you allow them time to process what happend to put them in care and be open and honest. All teens go through something but if you have a family that is open, honest and loving, you can't go wrong!
Today remind your kids how special they are and let them know they have divine purpose, the earlier, the better xo Tanya
You can always ask me questions here or email
Thursday, January 13, 2011
Monday, January 10, 2011
new Year
Hi foster parents!
excited to have you hear. We will be focusing on issues that will help you during your foster parenting. Please feel free to leave a comment and thanks. Tanya
New year should be the focus. having your kid write down their goals for the new year and what goals the family has is a new start!
Be reasonable on letting write what they want and guide them to a better solution if you find it not fitting, (i want 10 X boxes)..
perhaps you could say ok what chores can you take on to get money to buy one OR how much of your allowance you get (that they get monthly from the state) wlll you have to save to get that Xbox? teaching them financial and personal responsibility!
xo Tanya
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